August 31, 2020

Three Things I have learnt.

When I think back over my life and when I look at the decisions, I have made over that life there are three lessons that I have learnt along the way. These were taught to me by my father, although I am not sure he meant them in quite this way.

I started my life living on a farm and in 1973 we moved off the farm as My father became a salesman for an animal feed company Life on the farm was free and fun I had 150 acres of land to play in and this is where I developed my love of the outdoors.

Getting out and being by myself. Having friends to get into adventures with… To living on a housing estate. Although it was on the outskirts of town and the “wilderness” was only a short walk.

Here are the Lessons

Lesson One.

For some reason, I had done something wrong and someone was upset with me. I can’t remember what it was, but I can remember that I was not at fault, in my eyes! MY father had just done a sales training course with the Alfred Tack organization. He took me to one side and produced a key fob. On it was the motto they worked to. YOU, WE, I.

He explained to me that most people go through life thinking only of themselves. What’s in it for me. He suggested that looking at the other person first and understanding what they saw and wanted I would get on better. What do you want from this, how can we achieve this and finally what do I get back from it?

In this way, we all move forward.

Let’s extend this, having respect for other people is a main core of my life. I do not care about the colour of your skin, your religion, sexual orientation. We have to work together to move forward we have to both win here. Me coming along and just thinking of myself gets nobody anywhere and means ultimately, I lose out.

Lesson 2

We used to sail. Merlin Rockets a 14ft restricted class of dinghy. This class had a 150 square foot spinnaker to deploy. I was 4ft 6 and hardworking, but this was huge, and the pole would not attach to the mast. From the back of the boat “No such thing as Can’t” The extra bit of effort it worked we were off.

This isn’t about what we can and can’t do this is about what is possible. People say stuff is impossible. No, it’s not it is just Improbable life is full of so-called impossible things They are all just degrees of improbability. Somebody somewhere will challenge the status quo and move forward. I thought it was impossible to get the spinnaker pole into place, but it wasn’t. It may be that there are some impossible things coming into your life. They aren’t, they just improbable, and with the right application of thought and effort, you can overcome and win.

Mid 20’s I was determined to become a salesman and I went for interview after interview and was told I was to quiet. I listened rather than talked. I did not smile enough. So perhaps someone will explain to me why during my career I have broken records and become a sales manager. It does not come naturally to me, but it has worked. I am still a salesman.

Lesson 3

Show up. Never, ever give up. Do not worry about what other people say.

To win the race you first have to show up.

If you’re not there you can’t enter.

You can’t win if you don’t enter.

Having entered you can’t win if you give up.

Go for the win despite what people say.

The Lessons

Respect everyone and help them when you can

Nothing is impossible

Show up and never give up


For these lessons


Thanks, DAD


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